During certain times in our lives, we get stuck. We all do. Asking these 5 questions to help you feel better is not the “be all” to getting there, however, it’s a start.
As emotional beings, we can “catch a feeling” and run with it, not even knowing if it’s the right feeling to chase?
From personal experience, continuously broadcasting my feelings, invites people’s opinions as to what to do, or suggestions on how I should feel.
When in reality, the only opinion that should matter is my own.
For example, when we share situations with our friends and we seek advice, really, is that what we are doing, or are we trying to get the validation for what we already know is true?
I’m not saying that your most trusted confidant is going to lead your astray, just the contrary.
I know in my own life, when consistently talking, I can’t hear my inner voice tell me my next step.
Our inner voice guides our life’s path, if we will just listen. This practice of course, is a lifelong journey, but one you want to take for your own personal growth.
Sitting in silence can bring you answers you need to hear. Sit still and wait.
In all situations my suggestion is to start with this one question. How did I contribute to this situation? This begins both the self-reflection and the introspection process.
Looking at these 5 questions to help you feel better and get unstuck, will lead you to other questions.
In fact, the more clarity you gain, the better you are equipped for the next situation that happens in your life.
1) How did I contribute to this situation?
Any situation. You play a significant part in all your interactions. Whether with yourself or with other people. Asking yourself how you are showing up, matters. This is an easy check-in. And it helps you stay accountable to yourself and your accountability to others on how you show up.
Try to always be the person you imagine you are.
2) Who am I?
I’ve always said, “people only reveal what they want you to see.” Well, until they just become a mess for someone else to clean up.
Do you really know who you are? What lights you up? Do you know your deal breakers? Are your goals and dreams yours, or someone else’s? Do you get up every day with motivation? You need to answer this.
Answering this question, while sitting in silence, is a scary one. You may just find out you don’t know yourself at all. You’ve been living a play written for you, not by you. Write your own story.
If this is you, find clarity on your goals and light up your life with your dreams or at least begin to work towards them. You can read a hundred affirmations, but it be only one which spawns you into action.
Get busy being YOU!
3) What matters most to me?
When you ask yourself this question, it may bring up a kaleidoscope of feelings. Because a lot may matter to you. I can tell you the first answer that should be on your list, is you.
If you find that what matters most to you needs some attention, give it the attention it deserves.
You will feel better immediately, when you do. No matter how hard or how easy it is. It’s what matters most to you.
4) What do I need to change?
Personal growth can be very uncomfortable. Listen, the way you look to others, is not how you look to yourself. It’s that simple. As we age, life experiences change us. Navigating life isn’t easy at any stage. But it does get better when we master ourselves.
But we have too always be willing to be flexible. Otherwise, we can’t truly life up to our potential. And from experience, you want to do better than just your potential.
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Personally, being open minded can lead you to a truer sense of self. You’re listening and forming your own opinions. It’s when we stay close minded, that we remain the same, with little self-progress.
5) How do I want to live, knowing I will die someday?
Well, this one should perk you up? This question is to make you feel better about how you want your life to go.
LIVE WITH INTENTION.
Things don’t always plan out the way we want them to. We only have a limited amount of time on earth.
How are you going to live your life? I mentioned earlier to get busy being you! Get busy!
Having purpose and meaning in your life, leaving a legacy of love and kindness is a good goal to have. What are your dying goals? Answer while you’re living. Live with intention.
You can’t take a thing with you, leave this life knowing you changed lives just by being you.
There is lots to reflect back on when you know you have changed lives, just by being who you are.
Final Thoughts
One of my best introspection and self-reflection question is one word, that word is why. I can look at any situation in my own life and ask why and see my contribution.
Where the answers didn’t come as easy to me when I was younger, the answers are clearer to me now.
Meditate on the why’s in your life. Sit in silence with yourself, get to know who you are and what matters most to you. These 5 questions to help you feel better, just may change your life, and help you to see, life can be much more, if you give a little more. Be well my friend.
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